I’m not the classical female who dreams about her wedding day and may even go forward to plan every segment of the event to the last T, without even meeting the dream guy.
One time, I was in a conversation with a friend and was enthusiastically talking about my hopes for the future.
When I ended, he commented, “In all of these you didn’t mention marriage.”
“Oh,” I responded, slightly taken aback.
All of that notwithstanding, I have a secret fantasy.
I obsess about my future wedding band. You may catch me staring intently at my left hand. Most times, I envision a beautiful ring resting on my fourth finger. And sometimes, I actually wear a ring in private and admire my hands in a mirror. I have even thought about purchasing a ring to sate that desire but that would be moving ahead of myself.
Future hubby, if you are reading this, please save for the ring and make it a pretty one.
Before I get overtaken by mushy feelings, which are not the dominant part of me and definitely not the reason for this post, I better get along already.
I remember a certain time while growing up, the women arm of my church were having their week and made a drama presentation.
The drama featured a judge and defendants. The judge was the women leader while the defendants were the married men in the church. You were guilty if you were married and not wearing your wedding ring, and innocent if you were married and wearing your wedding ring. The tale went on to sue the men who were guilty; they paid an agreed sum as the fine for their offence.
I do not remember the percentage of the men who were guilty and those who were innocent, but the tale left a strong impression on my mind.
Some persons wear their wedding ring only in the first few months/years of their married lives and live the rest without paying as much attention to the importance of the wedding band.
For some, the brilliance of the band faded or it was outgrown. For some others, theirs was stolen or got misplaced and was never replaced. And yet still others do not wear theirs for no good reason. Their thinking could be, “Everybody knows I’m married.” Or for some women, “I look married and have children. So, what’s the need?” Maybe persons with the first thinking pattern need a mind reset, “Not everyone knows you are married.” And the second perhaps, “It’s more than how you look or if you have children.”
I admire married persons who wear their wedding bands. For me, the cutest thing on their hands is their wedding band.
For the men, it communicates, “Out of bounds.” The women get me thinking, “Someone is admiring her full time. How cool is that?”
More than anything, the wedding band is a symbol of union and as such a reminder of same; wearing your wedding band puts you in constant remembrance of your significant other. You find some married folks toying with their wedding bands when they are thinking about their spouse, either fondly or decisively. You also notice some married persons take off their wedding bands when they want to disconnect from their significant other. Except in the case of death, the latter act is a cause for alarm.
Are there (wo)men who flirt/cheat even with their wedding bands on? Yes, there are and it is sad.
“Honor the sanctity of marriage and keep your vows of purity to one another, for God will judge sexual immorality in any form, whether single or married.” – Hebrews 13: 4, The Passion Translation
What do you think about the wedding band? Do you think it is important to wear it as a married person or it is just another jewelry and marriage is more in the heart than on the finger? I would love to hear your thoughts on this.