It is my second week at work. I am gradually finding my way into the hearts and spaces of more persons.
Before now, his name is only a name I hear around; I am yet to put a name to the face or have a conversation with him.
We are sitting in the same consulting room now. I am studying to pass time. He is clicking away at his computer.
This is when we have our first conversation.
“Are you preparing for an exam?”
“Not exactly. Studying to keep busy,” I reply dryly.
“I can’t remember the last time I picked up a text, let alone study to keep busy,” he reveals.
I ask him if he has specialized. With an embarrassment that is hard to conceal, he says he hasn’t.
No surprise here. I might have rightly guessed so.
I probe further.
“Where would you have loved to specialize if you did?”
“Well, I only wrote Primaries once,” he adds a bit too rushed.
I take note of his attempt at evading the question.
He tells me his job (working in a private hospital) sparingly gives him time and explains how so. I can understand. I have been around a while and listened in on conversations. But beyond empathy, I must help him see a way out of the gloom that is snuffing the life out of his dreams – and self, insidiously.
Life happens. Things don’t always go as planned. There are often unforeseen bumps, curves, meanders on our life’s path. The journey to becoming your dream man/woman is a process. A not so tidy one. Filled with moments of uncertainty, confusion, weakness, fear, depression, you name it. But ultimately strength, which you have to find “to become.”
Some things can make a person seem like they have little or no goal for their lives. While some may originally have no goal, most persons succumb to challenges that get in the way of achieving their goal.
Challenges are posed to stop people who don’t want their dreams bad enough.
How bad do you want your dream?
Every waking moment of your life, a tithe of your time should be devoted to thinking up ways of moving your life forward.
Place visual reminders of your dreams around you.
Some set up a vision board. Some write in a journal. Either way, they keep visual reminders of their dreams close by, and soon enough they turn their dreams into their reality.
But first, it is important that you have a vision for your life.
Surround yourself with newbies – youngsters, who are ready to take on life.
Life has not happened to them like it has to you.
They are still full of energy and enthusiasm.
Rather than drain them with sad tales of reality sold in bottles of fear and mediocrity, feed on their energy. Let their passion, the spark in their eyes when they talk about their dreams, inspire you to seek yours and lead it.
Ps: A Letter To The One Who Comes After Me, Part 2 continues tomorrow. There’s a giveaway, keep tab!